- 53% of marriages end in divorce
- 41% of one or both spouses admitted to infidelity
- 57% men and 54% women admit to infidelity in any relationship
- 36% of men and women admit to affair with coworker
- 36% of men and women admit to affair on business trips
- 17% of men and women admit to affair with brother- or sister-in-law
- 74% of men say they would have an affair if assured they would not be caught
- 68% of women say they would have an affair if they assured they would not be caught
- Average length of an affair is 2 years
- 31% of marriages last after an affair is revealed
Infidelity is unlikely in the first year of marriage, but after five-to-seven years, relationship may have run their course, and there is the seeking of other options.
Equally as important, relationships are altered by the birth of the first child. It is now no longer a couple. It is a family, and acceptance of that structure is oppressive to some.
Additionally, at midlife, there are those who feel like life and its options are becoming narrower. The job, the home, the family are known, and for some, these are unexciting monotonies to be followed by retirement, old age and death.
Men cheat primarily for physical intimacy outside the marriage. This is furthered by the perception of some males that their wife has lost physical appeal after childbirth, and wives are now seen as maternal-non-erotic beings. Physical contact becomes routine/monotonous.
Not to be dismissed is the corollary male perception that a new physical conquest is a challenge, exciting, and verification of what may be felt as waning masculinity.
Particularly for women over 30, the reason for infidelity is more emotional and not primarily physical at onset. They seek emotional affairs, and such emotional attachments can span years without becoming physical. Husbands feel their physical needs are no longer satisfied and/or satisfying, but whether staying at home or in the workforce, women may feel emotionally isolated. They are as disappointed as their primarily physical-seeking spouse.
In the case of illness and/or injury, there are key issues that are overlooked by those treating the patient:
- Is the physically compromised patient perceived as a burden by the spouse?.
- Can the spouse tolerate both long term rehabilitation and probable financial decline?.
- Does the spouse have to enter the workforce or expand their hours of working to cover financial limitations?
- Does the ill or injured individual create more work at home?
- Is the patient taking medications that result in an impotent or anorgasmic condition, as well as irritability, continual fatigue, or weight gain?
- Is the patient’s health decline accompanied by disinterest in grooming, resulting in a physically and emotionally unpalatable mate when the working spouse returns home?
Finally, should this now problematic marriage decline and terminate, upon whom can the patient rely during rehabilitative and/or post-surgical needs?